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Don April 14, 2014 at 09:31 AM
Note to file: Per this Therapist(?) her approach is "eclectic", her word not mine. ThatRead Morein itself says, stay away from these experiments: You're the Guinea pig. I see she worked at the "Territorial Apprehension Center"- guess she was working on boundaries. Yes I'm a bit peeved for these approaches mess with peoples lives. Ask her her success rate. How many happy people ratio? What is her pragmatic plan? Does she promote repairing or moving on? Moving on is the easy route; Do the hard work it pays off better And yes, immaturity is the most likely culprit no matter your age. All of you are stronger than that. Seek help if needed, but be very leery of many for they're likely just as if not more so screwed up than you feel you are. And that doesn't take reading Tea leaves either
Susan Rowen, LMFT April 14, 2014 at 10:49 AM
As a response to the above comments! Of course, working out conflict between people is the bestRead Moreres olve. However, often one partner or both partners has made a decision that leads to dissolution of the marriage, even after months of therapy. Therapists often see couples who already have an agenda, or at least one person had made a decision. Going to therapy is often the last resort. The divorce group is not a therapy group. It is a support group. The group offers a safe and non judgmental arena for people who have already made the decision to divorce. Hopefully, their decision has been made after some kind of professional intervention to see if the marriage can be saved. A divorce support group can provide a place to discuss the issues, feelings of loss and grief surrounding a marriage that has ended. The group provides a place where people can discuss practical options for resolving problems that arise after a decision has been made to dissolve the marriage. Education about issues, such as dealing with loss, anger, finances, single parenting, co-parenting, custody, visitation, dating, entering a new relationship and discussion about these issues provides the possibility of a more positive outcome to a situation that is beyond repair. Solutions and skills offered often lead to more cooperative and positive outcome for adults and children involved in the divorce process. Education and cooperation does not make the pain go away but it can help to ease the conflict and anger and grief associated with the divorce process.
Don April 15, 2014 at 01:31 PM
Ahhh Susan, unfortunately you glossed over or missed my point(s). People in these states need aRead Moreproa ctive, plan driven support group. You as the moderator for the choice of a better term are the one who develops, implements that plan. Proactive means its a "postive" solution driven approach. Proactive means telling them the hard truth of their errors not feeling their pain. In times like this, people need a "Referee" not someone to feel their pain. For if you Referee real conflict resolution can occur. So don't "feel their pain", Referee to resolve. Have I explained it better and clarified the fallacies of feel good, so that they may have the opportunity to really feel good and correct "knee jerk" Remember: you are dealing with peoples well-being not just the ones in the chair, but also the ones affected by the one in the chair
Don February 22, 2014 at 11:17 AM
Boring And you didn't do your study of history very well when you portray the knee jerk against the Read Morevery knee jerk you complain about it dilutes as a minimum the credibility of your comment. Just check out referenced to the Presidents. The squeaky clean portrayal conveniently takes a snippet by the way, I am not a liberal either
Carl Petersen III February 23, 2014 at 05:57 PM
A response to a comment that is misquoted. One of the quotes that I focus on in this week's blog:Read Moreht tp://goo.gl/L5mPCw
Komfort February 25, 2014 at 07:11 PM
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